Black day - Sep 26, 2015

Even after a week’s time I felt it’s important for me to share with you, where all my belief gone wrong. I think I found myself busy living without wife and kids.

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26th Sep 2015: I was so happy to see Vaishu after 3 and half months of waiting, landed in Vijayawada to take Haritha and kids along with me. I intentionally didn't tell her, don't want her to behave the same as other day. Bava said he wanted to come along with me to ensure that I don’t put myself into problems.

I was waiting for Bava to get freed so that, we can go and pick family. Bava got some important work to finish in between, and then we started @ 11 AM to eluru.

We reached Eluru by 12 PM approximately, got down from the CAR at Satramapadu. Then we wanted to have a cup of coffee before we move on, since we don’t know anything about the situation there.

We entered the house, then I saw Chinni’s father (china mama) sitting along with Subbaiah garu (mama). As soon as I entered, inquired about Haritha. China mama said, he doesn’t know. Then Subbaiah garu started smoking in the middle of the hall, I know that he was intentionally doing. Me and bava moved out of the house, was sitting on steps so that he can finish his smoke. I tried calling Haritha for around 5-6 times, it was ringing. She didn’t pick up the phone even after repeated attempts. I was about to cry, couldn’t control my emotions.

Then I realized that, they started playing game with me. Then we entered the house, and asked China mama again. He said, he doesn’t have any clue. Then I looked at Subbaiah garu and asked him, His response was ‘why should I tell you?’. Then he started shouting at me, he was primarily concerned about his interactions with me not cared about his daughter’s life at all. He started arguing with me about our interactions, and then I was just laughing at his behavior. When I tried to reach him for his help on that day, he didn’t care about it and started shouting on the phone. That’s when I asked him to control his tongue and behave like human. China mama was hardly making any effort to stop him, then bava had to intervene and control him. 

Then he has used the following statement, ‘Evado donga lanja koduku anta, case pettamannadanta’. Bava patiently said, it was me the one who asked to inform police but not to compliant, since the situation wasn’t under control. At that time, Bava has made several attempts to talk to Haritha like her own brother, she never cared about it. Bava wanted to control her emotions quickly, intentionally he said go and seek police help and get the protection for her. That was not to file any petition against anyone. Then I realized, he is an educated illiterate person, the way he was speaking. It was so bad on his side to make such statement, knowing Bava is the one who suggested. Just remember both my kids were born in Vijayawada with akka and bava’s support.

Then he started shouting at me, started saying things like ‘vadu’,’veedu’ etc. He said, he would have beaten me if he would have been in that situation. That was the worst thing anyone could say. He has misinterpreted the stress management as mental condition not being well, that was heights of his immaturity. I couldn’t digest seeing all this with my own eyes, I told bava that I wanted to move out since I don’t find my wife and kids. Bava asked me to wait; I said I can’t bare his language and behavior anymore and wanted to move out.

I came down with lot of disappointment, have sent the following SMS to Haritha to inform about my arrival. 

‘Even though I love you so much, your father has made a disaster out of it. Leaving to Bangalore in tears without seeing kids’. ‘By the way I am in eluru, leaving now’,’I got train tickets for all of us, train is at 3.30 pm in vijayawada’

There is no response from her, I felt bad for her innocent behavior. She is the one who said, you can come and see kids any time. She knows me so well for 8 years, which was the unexpected behavior from her. I was feeling quite tired after I seen the behavior from them, started walking around on the road to take control on myself and to bring down my heart beat. 

Bava has taken another one hour before he came down, he was controlling his emotions very well. He was quite unhappy with subbaiah garu’s behavior the way he spoke. He asked me not to share these incidents with anyone, since they have potential to create more problems and create bad perceptions on the people.

They wanted to meet along with all the people and settle the situations; Bava’s point is that there is no real issue to solve. I wasn’t expected my dear wife to behave like that, I would have never done it in my life for my sister or anyone else. I would have checked my phone few hundreds of times, never expected my wife to cheat me like this.

But this is the fact of the life, you will be born as single and die as single. My expectation has gone wrong that she would stay with me forever.

It’s my innocence to assume right behavior is always correct, not taking dowry is right thing for everyone, but taking care of elder people is not the correct thing. Even after 8 years, I am still failed to understand Haritha’s concerns. Anyway this is the time i should be spending more time with the family and Nanna is yet to recover from his back to back surgeries.

Akhil is missing his quality education for no reasons, i know Haritha will take care of his education.

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